What is Your Parenting Style?
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Why is knowing your parenting Style Important?
How you treat your children is a reflection of who you are. Your parenting style reveals your strengths and weaknesses. Knowing your parenting style helps you correct or refine how you bring out the best in your kids.
basecamp story
A Parenting style is like the weather climbers are in when ascending a mountain.
If climbers ascend a mountain in a winter storm, they can get trapped in a whiteout, in high winds, and potentially freeze to death. If they climb in hot weather in the middle of the day, the snow can be too soft, making their steps sink too low, or crevasses can open up, potentially endangering their lives. Sure, climbers can still make it to the top and down, but there is more risk of failure.
Ideal climbing conditions are early in the morning on clear mornings. The snow is still hard, and the climbers can summit by sunrise. Then they can glissade down back to base camp.
A less effective parenting style can produce great kids and the ideal parenting style can produce disobedient kids–there is no guarantee. Regardless, the best way to ensure a positive outcome is to learn and practice the best parenting style possible. Just like the best way to ensure getting to the summit is to climb in ideal weather conditions.
how do you take ownership of...
a parenting style proven to be the most effective?
Ignorance, laziness, past experiences, pride, and other factors can keep parents from doing the work of improving their parenting approach. Parents who want the best for their children…
- Learn the different styles
- Are honest about their style
- Begin to practice the best style
- See positive change unfold.
Let’s look at parenting style models
Highest education goes to the next level.
Generic
1. Uninvolved 2. Permissive 3. Authoritarian 4. Authoritative
In the 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind identified three main parenting styles: Authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive. A fourth style, neglectful, was later added in the 1980s by Stanford researchers Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin.
Love and Logic®
1. [none]2. Seargant 3. Helicopter 4. Consultant
Since being uninvolved–or neglectful–can be unlawful and no one would admit they are that way, author Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D developed three types of parenting styles–Drill sergeant, helicopter, and consultant.
Highest Education
1. Narcisist 2. Taskmaster 3. waiter 4. advisor 5. Discipler
It’s important to know all five because our society seems to push for the “I do as I want” (narcissit), and on the other side, our higher calling is to be the kind of person we want our children to be (discipler)
Highest Education’s five parenting styles provide a complete picture of what is real and what is possible.
The first one on the list is the worst, the kind you don’t want to be. The last one is the best and provides the best weather conditions to give your children a summit experience. The kind you want to experience. let’s take a closer look.
A parent who leads themselves well and who leads their children well is the best kind of parent, who provides the best kind of opportunities.
When you focus on your highest education, on making the best your family pursuit, then then the idea of parenting is something you and your kids can talk about. There is nothing for you to hide or excuse. There is nothing for your to protect; it can protect itself.
- “Kids, I’m learning about parenting and being a good human. Here is a sheet with five parenting types.
- Choose a style and section to talk about.
- Ask three questions.
What do these words mean?
How does it make families better or worse?
How can we be more or less like this?
Ready to Get to the top?
As you are observant about your parenting style, make an intentional effort to be the best you can be for your kids!
We are so glad you are a part of the journey!