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Triggers in Relationships with Dr. Dan Allender

  • November 11, 2022
  • Posted by: Highest Education Writer
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Dan Allender, Ph.D, is a prominent Christian therapist, author, professor, and speaker focusing on sexual abuse and trauma recovery, as well as story, marriage and family. He pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years. The Allender Center at The Seattle School is a training and transformation hub for pastors, therapists, lay counselors, and community leaders to understand their own stories in order to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve.

Discussion Questions:

  1. What is a trigger in a relationship?

  2. Why can triggers really undermine a relationship?

  3. Everyone is going to experience triggers; they happen. Why is validating and normalizing triggers important?

  4. What is one common trigger in a relationship?

  5. Feeling alone and feeling a sense of judgment can quickly cause a trigger. What assumptions are easy to make when there is a trigger?

  6. Being intentional by asking “I wonder what you need” is helpful to bring back normalcy after a trigger. Why is this true?

  7. Is it easy to talk about what you are prone to get triggered in?

  8. Why is being kind to yourself and to your significant other helpful in getting out of the trigger process?

Learn more at https://theallendercenter.org/

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